A central part of the study of the Enneagram is to understand how the archetypes move with the arrows. In this essay I explain what happens when we flip into our connected types unconsciously, and how we can use our arrow points as resources for personal growth. This essay is a critical comment to the terms “direction of integration” and “direction of disintegration” - and is inspired by a podcast by Enneagram experts Beatrice Chestnut and Uranio Paes.

An introduction to my newsletter Word for Woman - letters on sexuality, shadow work and conscious relating. Why should you read it? Because you are ready to go deep; embracing your shadow sides; and step into your most sensual, luscious deep-felt self!

What does it take to forgive someone? And can we just DECIDE to forgive, or is forgiveness something that needs to arise naturally as a result of us embracing our pain? I had a chat with a friend eager to forgive, and in this essay I share my thoughts. Do you agree? Or is forgiveness something different for you?

An ode to the divine feminine essence. Exploring where and who Woman is, and how to find here in me.

A story of a very special exercise, that changed my way of being with other women. My curiosity of men and sex had seduced me into the tantric field, but once there: I realized that my most important work wasn’t with men and sex: it was in my relationship with other women.